The Kids (Sept 2016)

So, it’s been a while since I’ve written about the children and their school lives.

Matthew is now in Year 8, the second year of secondary school and fast approaching his 13th birthday. He enjoys Maths, Science, Cooking and PE. He is still not confident with his writing and does not enjoy English but gets through it all ok. He is back on the School football team this year as a Goalkeeper.

James is now in Year 3 of primary school. The school is now an Academy and everything I’ve seen from the changes they’ve made to the school from the staffing, the security, the building – right through to the attitude and feel of the school – has been nothing but positive so far. The school felt incredibly stale in recent months. The teachers had no passion and drive and with 4 of them leaving at the end of summer term, we were more than ready for new teachers and teaching assistants. This has made a huge impact on young James. He is now happy to go to school, he looks forward to lessons and learning every day. He runs in the door with a smile on his face and is currently enjoying his work. His new teacher is a really good influence on him, he is inspired and trying really hard. With that comes the realisation that he can do things that he always struggled with before a little bit easier than he found it before. With that comes confidence and the eagerness to try and learn more. So far, it’s all a win win situation. He’s still behind most of his classmates, still struggles with reading BUT he’s trying so hard and getting better all the time, Year 3 could really be the making of James.

Liam has recently turned 7. That means we have another 5 weeks of having two 7 year olds in the house that aren’t twins.  Liam is now in Year 2 and has the dreaded SAT tests this year to test the school, teachers and kids just where they are under government guidelines in the education tables. I think it’s too much on kids. James really struggled with these but Liam is soaring ahead at the moment. He’s on one of the top tables for Maths, Science and English but struggles with his writing just like his brothers. His reading is ahead and his spellings are pretty good. If only he would spend more time doing them then I’m sure he’d get really good marks at that too. He just sticks with the ones he knows for now and doesn’t work so hard with the learning aspect of spellings. Still, he’s only just turned 7 so I’m not going to turn all pushy parent on him just yet. He has always wanted to learn and thanks to his teacher last year he found his confidence and “happy space” a fair bit before James and has excelled since. This is why I’m hopeful James’s new teacher will take him further this year. Thankfully, Liam has the same teacher this year so I am really confident that he will continue to shine and be encouraged by what he is doing.

As the kids are getting older, I find myself looking back at the old baby photos and enjoying them as babies. I don’t get the yearning for any more.

I love my boys to bits and after the baby and toddler stages, it becomes such a joy to watch your children grow and develop mentally and emotionally. They are such real little people now with beliefs, with opinions, with ideas and dreams and it’s amazing to see them all so different from the others. They are very individual with different strengths and different interests. They really do have so much going on in their little lives that I am just proud to be part of it all.

The baby years are short, the toddler years are short, the school years – well they seem to be flying by too.

I can’t miss my “babies” when I am so in awe and adoration of the children they are right now.

They are strong, happy, compassionate, kind, sharing towards each other. Always help each other. Try to cheer one another up. Try to assist the others. And they are all the best of mates.

I really can’t ask for anything more than that.


Change of Career?


For a while now, I’ve been wanting to do more. More than just be a waitress. Whilst I love it to an extent, it’s not what I’d call a rewarding job. It has no real future and as you get older then, it becomes that little bit less enjoyable.

For a while now I’ve been thinking of becoming a Slimming World Consultant. To 1) Help others who struggle with their weight like I have/do. and 2) To give myself a boost and something to aim higher for.

Then, one night hubby and I were watching tv about Health Foods. The benefits of natural fats, the things that are superfoods. You know the type of thing, when it hit me.

Why stop at being a Slimming consultant? Why not go the whole hog and find a new career in the NHS?

I’ve looked up a few things and I really am seriously considering going to college next September (if we’re still in Suffolk) and studying to become a full on Dietician.

It makes so much sense.

I know about the weight loss side, the diabetic side and the pregnancy and small children nutrition through alot of personal experience and if I can combine the two and work in the public offering help and guidance to those needing/wanting to lose weight or for medical needs then I feel it’s something I can really excel at and it is something I truly believe in.

This year is a little too short notice to begin the courses I need and it would mean giving up my current work to study on a 3 day course which later in the course will be upped to 5 days for placement duties.

I say “If we’re still in Suffolk” for the simple fact, that hubby has been offered a new job. Still doing what he is doing but on a bigger scale and it would mean MAJOR relocation for a minimum of 4 years. Again, I don’t want to say too much for something that may or may not happen but it is very much “Abroad”. That’s all I’m going to say on that for now. The money sounds good, the oppertunity is a once in a lifetime oppertunity but it’s him who finally has to make that decision. He’s the one who has to take on the big job and obviously as a family, we’ll support him whichever way he chooses. We’ll know more about the actual deal in October and then have a big big big decision to make that will affect the future of ourselves and kids – probably forever.

So, watch this space.



Easter Holidays Almost Over


Happy Belated Easter to all of my readers. Just when I was getting back into the swing of regular blogging, the world decided it was time to stop again.

A change of broadband provider meant my activity came to an abrupt stop. 15 days later it was finally up and going but since it’s been the school holidays we’ve been rather busy so let’s do things simply.

I do apologise if I am repeating myself but it’s been a while.

1.  Our House is OUR house. The official word came through that completion of purchase came through March 24th. We no longer pay rent but  a mortgage and we are due back £200 of rent we had overpaid. Bonus.

2. I am still juggling two jobs. The cleaning and bar work and enjoying both. The variety stops me getting bored. The third job fell through. Not sure what is happening with that business at the moment but the cook there decided to jump ship and opened her own tea rooms in the building more or less opposite. This job fell through for a reason and I am glad I am not caught up in the turmoil.

3. The kids got their school reports just before Easter. They are all trying hard, working to their abilities but James and Liam remain behind. Nothing new.

4. Matthew goes back to school on Monday as his last ever primary school term. That’s shocking.

5. James has received a referral for a full assessment to get him extra one on one tuition in school. I had to phone to confirm to give permission for this and requested that Liam be assessed at the same time. Things are moving.

6. Liam was signed off from the Physio lady this week. I am so proud of him. I’ve always been honest with M, the lady in charge of him and say we as a family accept his genetic issues and understand he will be behind but the school are so headset on “results” they seem to have expectations that Liam certainly won’t reach this year. She agreed. She gave him a full review, testing balance, activities on his knees, his core strength and was incredibly pleased with his progress. The exercises he’s been doing at home and school have helped but she thinks the majority of his progress is down to “life”. The park play, the home trampoline, the home swings, long walks and general play at school. He’s matured, he understands more and is able to do more as everything else falls into place. Liam compared to where Liam was before has progressed well and will no longer require physio in the clinic. She intends to visit school next week with her report, pass on  more muscle strengthening exercises and leave his progress in the hands of the school. Result!

7. Hubby is currently at an interview that could have him running his own renwable energy plant. He works at one now but another one a little further away needs a manager. He’s well experienced and has good knowhow. He’s still not entirely sure if he wants the job but says it’s all experience and he’s open to negotiations on a better package. We’ll see how it goes.

8. Hubby and I are going away for a weekend in June with a few friends we’ve not seen for a while. I’ve lost alot of weight in the last 3 years since I last REALLY saw them. I’m looking forward to going and not feeling so big compared to the gorgeous wives I’m going with. I’d like to lose one more stone by the time we go (14lbs in 10 weeks is more than do-able) which would have me at over SIX STONE (84lbs) lighter than last time I saw them socially for more than a few minutes.

9. I am currently 5 st lighter than when I started. Yes, I am proud of that! 🙂  I have good months and bad months but it’s an ongoing change of life, I’m already a fraction of the person I was and need to keep going.

10. I’m off to a party on April 25th, I’m sure I’ll be able to post a progress picture or two. 🙂

I hope everyone has had a happy Easter. x

Mothers Day

Today it is Mothers Day here in the UK so it seems the ideal moment to take a few moments to reflect and be thankful for the little people that makes this day worth celebrating.

11043044_10152655816791034_2319868471006634976_nWhat more do I need to say than these are reason my for living.

My reason for getting up every morning….early….far too early.

My reason for wanting to work, wanting to provide more for their future, our future.

My reason for fighting through tough times.

My reason to live well, lose weight, strive for a healthy active household.

My reason to provide a comfortable, clean, enjoyable homelife.

My reason to better myself.

My reason to be proud of my actions, to be proud of what I have achieved and what I have helped raise into lovely young men.

My reason to live by a moral code I would have taken for granted in the past.

My reason to look at life from a far away perspective, to nurture, to care, to encourage through life, to love, to help, to nurse, to educate, to admire.

These are my kids and these are just a handful of thoughts on how they mean so much to me.

Bring On Spring

Camber Sands

The half term has flown by and it’s been a very different half term break for me. I got to look after the kids for just 1 day by myself.

On the Friday they finished school they went off to my mums for a sleepover. Hubby and I did the Valentines thing and they returned on Sunday afternoon.

Monday was all change. Hubby had the day off work and took them on a train journey to our not-too-far-away-city of Norwich whilst I went back to work at the Cafe.

I worked Tuesday with hubby looking after them, had Wednesday off and I was back at work so the boys had Nan looking after them for Thursday and Friday.

I missed that little place. I really enjoyed working that week. I had a great time and slotted right back in to it.  It did make me realise though that as much as I love it, covering for holiday for someone elses absence in the kitchen, that there wasn’t enough work for 2 cooks and a kitchen assistant. Before Christmas we were busy preparing for big orders, busy work days and general Christmas sales. Now in February, there was just the average day to day stuff to do. The days went quick and I enjoyed my time there. I have another odd day to cover March 6th which I’m looking forward to.

For the weekend with both myself and hubby off we took the kids away to a little seaside resort in Sussex called Camber Sands. We enjoyed the great outdoors, a walk along the beach eating ice creams, parks, play areas, music and fun. We stayed away over night and returned Sunday afternoon.

Sunday afternoon on the way home, we made a chance stop at a car dealership and bought a car on the offchance. There’s nothing particularly wrong with our current car……as yet but it has very high milage and is 12 years old so we’ve got ourselves a nice little Honda Accord to keep us going for another couple of years.

This weekend we got all the paperwork through regarding Liam’s genetic issues. I am rather annoyed that the letter sent to us NOW asks for an appointment to be made to check him out with an echocardiogram to check his heart. I am annoyed because we had this diagnosis FOUR months ago and now they want to check him for rather serious health abnormalities. I’d have hoped that would be an early formality but we’ve never seen any signs of poor health so feel that if it had been an issue then we’d have been seen earlier so I don’t have any worries really but I feel it that after all the blood tests he’d had and everything already, it really should have been suggested with the diagnosis back in October.

Today is their last day off as we return to school tomorrow. It’s a nice peaceful day as we’ve had a trip to the shops and James has baked some bread. Now we go back to the tv and have some snuggle time.

Pictures Say A Hundred Words

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It’s back to school day.

The oldest Matthew is on his last year of Primary school as he enters year six.

Middle man James is now in year one.

And baby Liam is in reception class.

All are schooled from 8.45-3.15pm. It’s going to seem a long day.

I already have requests in for tonights dinner. Matthew wants burger and chips, James wants chicken korma and rice, Liam wants jacket potato and cheese.

I’m actually looking forward to collecting them. I’m not used to so much quiet or having the tv to myself.

I wish my little men well and hope they are enjoying their day in their new classes. x


1. It’s the last day of the school holidays. For the first time ever I feel a bit more sad than relieved.

2. Yes, I am an evil mother for admitting that.

3. This year the kids have been that little bit easier to deal with. Matthew is maturing and his behaviour is improving by the month and the other 2 are that much bigger and more able to amuse themselves. I’m less of a slave to all 3 as Matthew wants to help and does regularly. Matthew helps the little ones with so much, it’s lovely.

4. I must be at the “peak” of my cycle. I’ve been a bit broody this week. I can tell the difference between “peak” cycle and “due on” time by whether I’m obsessed with babies (peak) or if it’s the opposite and AF is due when I get really obsessive about my hair and feel the urge to get it all chopped off.

5. Of course, broodiness also comes with letting my baby’s go. Baby-est boy is off to full time school tomorrow. I’m a bit emotional for that.

6. I realised just how anxious and sad I am about it when I had a bit of a nightmare about it all the other night. It started off taking the boys to school but upon collection time Liam was not there. I was hysterical outside the school doors sobbing, “Where’s my baby? You’ve taken my baby! I want my baby back!” I don’t think I need to go very far into my side interest of dream interpretation of what that meant!

7. My husbands grandparents are going to be going into assisted living quarters. It’s not a residential home, but they have their own apartment including lounge, kitchen, shower room and bedroom and all the benefits of a residential home with bills paid, entertainment, cleaning done,  meals three times a day and a whole new host of friends. Hubby’s Grandads health has taken a turn for the worst in the past few weeks and though he’s not suffering too badly he’s in his 90’s and they both realise that life is getting tough for them in their bungalow and that they may be best to accept that whatever time they have left, they will be better with less work and stress and to actually relax and enjoy life.

8. Back to the good stuff, it’s birthday month. I love September. 3 birthdays in the house within a week is expensive for family but alot of fun for us. 🙂

9. I spent the morning cleaning out all my kitchen cupboards and doing a major declutter. I filled 2 big black binbags of old food we won’t finish, old utensils, old blenders, cracked serving plates. Ya know, the stuff that gets pushed to the back of the cupboard and forgotten about? All that has gone. I then gave the cupboards a good clean as you tend to get grease splats no matter how much you wash things up and then re-sorted the cup/glass cupboard, the beverage cupboard and all the plates which had double up as a cereal EVERYWHERE cupboard. The mini boxes of cereal were everywhere, old boxes of cereal that we’d started and didn’t like but still stayed there were binned. I’ve decluttered 2 boxes of “bits” that didn’t have a real home, done the washing, thrown out the dead flowers.I feel I’ve got a lot done today.

10. September is going to be a good dieting month. I can feel it in my bones! School holidays are the toughest time ever and I’ve managed to lose a grand total of wait for it ….. 3LBS in 6 WEEKS. Yes, it’s horrific. However in my defence, I’ve had a holiday, a wedding anniversary weekend away, meals out and my weight has been up and down. I NEED my routine back, I need a pattern to my life. I need the kids out the house, If they don’t eat biscuits, I don’t eat biscuits. It’s all SO simple deep down. Holidays make me weak but I am full of positivity and will do so much better this month.

11. On the plus side I went clothes shopping recently. A new coat is 2 sizes smaller than my last, I am down 1 size in jeans, 2 in stretch trousers and down a whole cup size in my new bras. Something is working.

12. I want to lose at least 6lbs by my birthday. Hoping 3 of those will be gone next week as I am determined to get that 1stone award this week. I’m very very determined. I just need to remain focussed and strong. I can do it.